Women have an enormous amount of power over men.
Jordan Peterson talks about how this is actually a good thing.
When women have high standards for men, and do not settle for less, they set the bar.
And sx is an obvious part of all of this - albeit an unpopular one to discuss in this context.
When women choose to have sx with mediocre men - men who treat them unkindly, men who give them breadcrumbs, men who display all sorts of unsavory characteristics, MANY DANGEROUS THINGS HAPPEN.
Men are sent the message that all of this behavior is okay, and if they act that way, they can still get laid. So the mediocrity continues.
Women are then sleeping with mediocre men, which leads to these traits being passed on genetically, and also environmentally.
The cycle continues.
Women like to complain about how there are no good men out there, but then play a part in why men act the way they do.
Men also have their part - many of you need the external pressure of a woman to step up to the plate, rather than taking it into your own hands to be a good person.
Don’t forget, it takes women an ENORMOUS amount of energy and pressure in order to correct bad behavior. And we’d often like to be doing other things.
All of this is happening unconsciously on a collective level whether you are aware of it or not.
This may trigger some, but that doesn’t make it un-true.
These are hard facts that people quite like to ignore.
We are living in the dark ages when it comes to love, sx, and relationships. There are 20+ huge reasons why.
I have a way higher devotion to pointing out what’s really going on than I do to being liked.
This is because I am dedicated to the evolution of relationships, which ties to the evolution of humanity.
How we choose to behave is quite malleable. Men and women know how to step up to the plate when it’s required. But aside from the smaller percentage of people who are self-motivated to be their best, the vast majority need to be shaped and molded by extrinsic motivations.
So let’s just work with what’s true.
What I’m saying here is: Women, stop settling for less than you deserve. I love you, and I love men, and I want the best for us all. When we raise the bar and stop settling for less than we deserve, everyone wins.
It’s more loving to men to hold them to high standards - WAY more loving - than to allow them to act in unacceptable ways.
And men, realize that the way many of you are acting is subpar. Narcissistic. Avoidant. Abusive, still. Step up to the plate and try harder.
(To most of you, this will go without saying. But for everyone else, I am speaking to COLLECTIVE patterns here, not individual exceptions.)
Love, s-x and relationships can either be used as our greatest blessing, or our greatest curse. We have the power and agency to choose.
If you need support with this, let’s talk. I am here for you.