TRANSCENDING THE VICTIM/VICTIMIZER CYCLE

The cosmic wolves that prey on humanity aren't direct reflections of humanity's collective shadow, but an inversion. They don't exist because of the wolf within us, but the sheep within us that sustains them. We beat this by being neither wolf nor sheep.

Think of a sheepdog or shepherd. Neither wolf nor sheep, distinguishes between friend and foe, protects what matters, capable of force when necessary, acts out of duty and caring, and guides the innocent to greener land. This metaphor applies within us spiritually, and outside us socially. To be a light for others, we must first ignite the light within.

Matthew 10:16 "Be ye therefore wise as serpents and harmless as doves." That's the end goal, but to be that 100%, for safety we need to be enlightened, psychic & quasi-physical. But since we're still physical and flawed, we need protection too. So: "Be good. Be smart. Be armed."

- Tom Montalk

Women with weak boundaries attract men who don't treat them well, and this ranges from somewhat disrespectful to highly abusive.

If that women has children with that man, her poor boundaries won't protect herself or her children.

Then the children also become targets of abuse, and the cycle continues.

The path for her to heal this is synonymous with the path to wholeness, or yin/yang integration.

She must:
- heal self love and self worth (core wounds)
- learn to speak truth clearly and courageously
- develop boundaries + discernment
- cultivate assertiveness

all while preserving her soft + open heart.

This is what I do every day with women.

As I've had to walk this journey in my own life, I now see it as the path of inner union that was orchestrated for me to learn this soul lesson.

I knew (once I was able to step out of victim mentality) that it was all happening for a reason.

And so the path of the integrated woman is the path of developing spine while preserving heart.

This is necessary at this time because the predator/prey dynamic is alive and well. And yet one of the biggest things we need to transcend collectively is this very dynamic.

And the way to transcend it is to stop operating at the extremes. And so those who are all heart and no spine develop spine. Those who are all spine and no heart develop heart. It neutralizes the polarities, and by definition the predator/prey dynamic will cease to exist.

I have spoken about this a lot here and on the podcast, referring to this process as inner union (and also, the integrated man and the integrated woman).

Distorted 'polarity' teachings prevent women from developing spine and use shame to keep them in line.

They're either doing this intentionally to block the development of divine union or unintentionally because they are unaware of natural law, specifically of The Law of Polarity.

Don't be fooled.

For those who understand that life is a curriculum and there are things within you that are asking to be strengthened, true empowerment comes when you understand co-creation ("the sheep within us that sustains them") and take steps to rise above.

If you understand that challenges in your life don't pop up randomly, and are instead invitations for you to grow in certain areas, you will trust YOUR life to guide you vs. some external teacher telling you what you need to work on.

Once you awaken and learn the process of alchemy, your daily life will provide enough material for you to work with until your last day - so we need to stop looking outside of us and start paying attention to how our lives are unfolding on the daily, and especially who we are surrounded by.

Who you have around you tells you exactly where you're at in relationships; both who you attract, and who you choose to allow (and keep) in your field.

We are at a time in human history where the divide between 'sides' is huge. After I had Dr. Simon on the podcast, I saw that with the rise of narcissism and psychopathy, the victim/victimizer split is only going to grow larger. In a way, this is Spirit's way of putting pressure on us to learn this lesson.

If we want to prevent the suffering inherent in this cycle, then we must develop spine while preserving our soft and open hearts.