The Masculine/Feminine Polarity Cult

And My Time in the Los Angeles Polarity Scene

This is a strong message, and I know that it will not be for everyone.

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It was 2017 and I was in a room of people all gathered for a workshop led by a big named teacher in the LA masculine/feminine polarity scene. It was quite a group.

The women were attention seeking in an over-the-top way, slinking around with sexualized, overly feminine voices, "performative," as we called them.

Purely running the seduction energy of the dark feminine, hooking and pulling the men towards them.

The men seemed a bit more 'normal' on the surface, mostly observing the women and receiving the energy, but also with a touch of 'this is a little much.'

I found out about their shadows later.

There was much talk of David Deida and sex, of course, mostly of the dom/sub kind.

(What I know now is that the room was full of the dark sexual energy, filled with addictions and insatiable voids, masquerading as 'open-mindedness.')

I quickly gathered that many of these people were from One Taste, regulars at the OM classes and beyond.

[A week earlier, two women from One Taste came to one of my women's circles trying to recruit people (ugh), and somehow my phone number got to the business people who kept calling/texting/soliciting me to come "try out" an intro class. I had to block them because they were so aggressive. The energy of the whole thing was gross, despite how open-minded I tried to be.]

Because of my early connection to esoteric spirituality and the true importance of polarity, I was drawn to some of the teachings in the overall scene, and what I know now is that it’s truth mixed with lies.

But what I saw quickly was that there was an overlay of just pure f-ed upness. Lots of shadow running around, not being transmuted, but instead, celebrated and eroticized. A total cult of 'anything goes,' all the way into the real dark realms.

I'm used to being an observer on the sidelines in environments I don't quite fit into, and so put zero pressure on myself to try and 'fit in.'

While it was clear that I didn't belong there, ultimately, it wasn't until 2022 that I came face to face with the dormant energy inside of myself and went through that major initiation.

That was the year that The War on Love, Sex + Relationships came through in an all-consuming way and it was a total lifting of the veil for me.

Up until then, I was teaching what I now call “the love and light side” of sexuality but this is when I was shown that I had to face the shadow in myself and help others do this on a mass scale. It was the only way forward.

I faced and cleared the dark energy dormant in myself (the energetic imprints from childhood abuse) which was wild to me, since I had already done years of therapy around it and the trauma on a psychological level was healed.

That's when I learned about the dark forces running in love, sex, and relationships, and was shown the energetic side of things on top of the psychological side.

We have to tend to both. I've spoken about all of this before.

In 2018 I posted a video on YouTube all about the LA polarity scene and my concerns around the dogma women and men were being fed, the performative roles and the abandonment of the true selves that was leading people into the hell realms.

Literally no one knew what I was talking about. This was years ago, long before this stuff hit the larger stage. (Fast forward to today, and still many people have no idea what I'm talking about, just in general.)

Within the LA scene, there were only 1 or 2 women who were on the same page as me, and yet they were still kind of ensnared in all of it.

So here we are in 2025, and I've gotten to watch all of this nonsense get even more distorted, more insane, regurgitated through social media until what's left is literal garbage.

I'm tired of having to rehabilitate women (and men) from these distorted teachings, and yet know it's part of why I had to be exposed to all of it. Back then, I made the beginner polarity mistakes in my own life and have compassion for that.

But the real reason I’m tired of it is that these teaching are running rampant, and are taking people in the opposite direction, and I would much rather help people build the new paradigm of relationships instead of having to take time to deprogram them.

This is why I have to start getting crystal clear about all of this. We don’t have time to waste with this nonsense when there is so much possibility and potential for us, just waiting for humanity to step in.

Beyond the dark sexual energy that’s engulfed this scene, on the more surface level, its dogma goes like this: Men need to be 100% in their masculine, and women need to be 100% in their feminine, and you are shamed if you do not do this.

While there is an absolute truth to polarity in terms of the true esoteric teachings, and that some women have been over-masculinized and vice versa, it’s been distorted, over-simplified, and applied in a way that prevents men and women from becoming truly integrated, ignoring Jung’s wisdom around anima/animus integration and preventing people from evolving on a soul level.

What people were doing (and are currently doing) is chopping off parts of their soul, stepping into a performative character version of themselves. I have compassion, since the root of it is desperation for love. But we have to snap out of it.

It’s really like this bigger work is a soul retrieval.

I get it, and experienced the devastation of soul abandonment when I was making beginner mistakes back then with my partner (we both ended up having to retrieve and re-integrate lost parts of ourselves).

The positive side of it for me is that I will never go down that road again, I learned my lesson. And now teach it very differently.

Besides, with all of the dogma, what’s transpired within the realm of men + women over the past 100 years (at least) was all actually necessary, and part of the bigger thing as the pendulum swings and we are invited into a third way, a true integration and higher level of consciousness (because that is the invitation, and why some of these distortions are coming in, to take people in the opposite direction.)

Almost nobody is talking about that part.

If integration and true divine union (union with God) is the path, then this path is taking people in the opposite direction.

It’s only been in the last year or two that I’ve heard anyone else talk about inner union, and yet most people who are just still don’t really get it.

I’m not going to repeat the way that I teach that here - this is a good introduction, although it’s just one entry point in. I am devoted to the new paradigm of relationships which does not include going back in time.

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You don't have to tell me that sometimes the darkness is our teacher, and yet I refuse to pedestalize it and treat it as a god, as some in this community do.

For me, it's about being so familiar with that energetic signature and being able to say NO.

It's about boundaries, discernment and spiritual strength.

I spot it everywhere now, in people's voices, their eyes, the music coming out of pop culture, all of it. And certainly all over social media.

This is really more about the energy and less about the people - it’s the energy working through them.

There are so many stories I could share with you of really dark teachings that I've heard from the mouths of some of these ‘teachers,’ and what it's turned into is a cult online now, starting that way in the more traditional sense of that word and now hooking people through social media on a mass scale.

I know the players and I know the game, and I'm not interested in debating this with anyone who is still under the spell. While I have compassion for the humans who've gotten pulled in, the energy behind it that's running the show is a NO for me, and I'm going to delete and block if necessary.

And on the energetic level, I'm no stranger to the larger spiritual war, and so energetic boundaries are activated, and I am protected.

For those who may want to attack me and protect your teachers: I pray that the energy is returned to sender and works on you in the same way it worked on me, leading to pure alchemy and transmutation.

"Whosoever has understanding, let him understand, for there is wisdom within. The initiate must learn to disguise himself and move amongst the devils, not only in the Averno but also here in this world that we live in. The Light is the shield that protects the initiate. There is the need to learn how to handle the flaming sword. The inner Christ is above the law and the Dragon; you know this."

-The Pistis Sophia Unveiled, Samael Aun Weor

Thank you, God, for this path - I am eternally grateful.

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Leigh-Anne LoPinto is a psychologist specializing in the new paradigm of relationships. She has 14 years of experience working with individuals and groups, and specializes in conscious relationships and spiritual partnership, using relationships to evolve on a soul level.

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